Zen and the Art of Change
The various methods, tools and approaches you can use to help elicit change
“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” ― Ernest Hemingway Ok. I’ll admit it. It was me. What on earth are you talking about Summerhayes? Have you finally lost the plot? Gone off the rails? Decided to enter the loony bin? Nope. I am admitting something, I’ve always kept hidden. For […]
Read More Getting caught out not listening“The salvation of this human world lies nowhere else than in the human heart, in the human power to reflect, in human meekness and human responsibility.” ― Václav Havel This is the last of the series on the seven attitudes that Jon-Kabat-Zinn developed and has stipulated are the basis for Mindfulness. The practice of mindfulness […]
Read More My reflections on the attitudes of Mindfulness“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him or her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.” ― C. JoyBell C. This is last of the seven attitudes […]
Read More Attitiude 7 – Letting Go“Some lose all mind and become soul, insane. Some lose all soul and become mind, intellectual. Some lose both and become accepted ― Charles Bukowski This is the sixth of the seven attitudes that Jon-Kabat-Zinn believes are the basis for Mindfulness. So what on earth is the idea of Acceptance? Definition: Simply put, coming to […]
Read More Attitude 6 – Acceptance. . . My opinion is that you never find happiness until you stop looking for it. My greatest happiness consists precisely in doing nothing whatever that is calculated to obtain happiness: and this, in the minds of most people, is the worst possible course. I will hold to the saying that:”Perfect Joy is to […]
Read More Attitude 5 – Non-Striving“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection […]
Read More Attitude 4 – Trust“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is […]
Read More Attitude 3 – Beginner’s Mind“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People This is the second of the seven attitudes that Jon-Kabat-Zinn believes are the basis […]
Read More Attitude 2 – Patience“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People This is the first of the seven attitudes that Jon-Kabat-Zinn believes are the basis […]
Read More Attitude 1 – Non-Judging“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” ― Kurt Vonnegut, Mother Night I have been trying to cultivate my own Mindfulness practice now for over two years, trying to do formal as well as informal practice on a daily basis; sometimes successfully, sometimes not. […]
Read More How attitude helps with Mindfulness
Martin Summerhayes 