Being in the Moment

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”Groucho Marx, The Essential Groucho: Writings For By And About Groucho Marx

This weekend involved a visit with a young friend to Windsor and Eton. It was cold and dry, with a brisk wind blowing along the river Thames. It is years since I visited Windsor and Eton and wanted to see what had changed in the town as well as spend time by the river.

There’s a newly built precinct filled with lots of upmarket shops and there is the old part of the town near to the castle with the narrow streets and cobbled areas. It really is an eclectic mix of old and new. As it was a Saturday, the town was filled with shoppers and tourists. There were many different nationalities in the town and it was a pleasant surprise to see so many people out and about despite the cold windy day.

My friend & I grabbed a coffee and a sandwich, sat for a while chatting and the decided to go for a walk along the river.

It was bitterly cold. The wind was blowing along the river and despite the number of swans and ducks on the river bank, there were very few people out and about either feeding the birds or walking along the river.

We walked away from the town towards the sports centre and then turned back. It was at this point that I noticed that there was a fountain in a nearbypark. The fountain in question is the Jubilee fountain, erected to celebrate the Queen’s diamond jubilee. The fountain is 25m long with a circular pool at the centre. In the middle of the pool is a geyser with a “crown” of 60 water jets.

We sat on a bench and watched the fountain as it jetted water into the air. For ten minutes we sat in quiet contemplation; watching the jets along the length of the fountain.

Being in the moment, I noticed that each single jet did not repeat the symmetry of the water as it was jetted into the air. The effect of the wind and the weather obviously has an effect. Perhaps there are pressure differentials. Who knows.

What I noticed was that moment, to moment, every single jet was unique. The motion of the water was wonderful to see. I pointed it out to my friend and we continued to sit for a few moments, observing the fountain in motion.

I took a short – 15 second video of the fountain to save the memory. You can see the video the link below. If you watch closely you too will see that the vertical jets at the front do not repeat and are uniquely jetting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SN7OYcH_XMo

I leave you with the following quote:

“The art of living… is neither careless drifting on the one hand nor fearful clinging to the past on the other. It consists in being sensitive to each moment, in regarding it as utterly new and unique, in having the mind open and wholly receptive.”― Alan W. Watts

The Mindfulness tool, the Breath

“are you breathing, are you lucky enough to be breathing”  ― Hettie Jones

One of the primary mindfulness tools that is available to each and every one of us and that we have free unfettered access to, is our breath. Until I came to mindfulness, I did not really think about the breath. Well, unless I was out cycling or walking really quickly. Then when I got out of breath, like anyone, I’d notice the shortness of breath and the desire to regain that sense of normality.

So when do we start to breathe? And is it really autonomic?

I didn’t know this, but babies lungs do not function the same way in the womb as they do outside of the womb. Before birth, a baby’s lungs are filled with amniotic fluid. They do “practice” breathing towards the end of the pregnancy with periodic inhaling and exhaling of amniotic fluid. Somewhere between the 24th and 28th week of the pregnancy, surfactant — sometimes called “lung detergent” — starts being produced in the amniotic fluid. As the pregnancy continues, more surfactant is produced. That is why the closer to term, 38 to 40 weeks, the better a baby is able to breathe outside the womb. Surfactant coats the inside of the lungs and keeps the alveoli, or air sacs, open. This helps when the baby is born by enabling the baby to quickly start to breathe air.

There is a respiratory control center at the base of your brain that controls your breathing. This center sends ongoing signals down your spine and to the muscles involved in breathing. These signals ensure your breathing muscles contract and relax regularly, hence the breath cycle. You can change your breathing rates, such as by breathing faster or holding your breath or even slowing down the breath through yoga or meditation practice. Your emotions also change your breathing. For example, being scared or angry can affect your breathing pattern by making you breath harder and faster in an effort to circulate more oxygen through your body.

The breath as a tool of Mindfulness:

There are a number of benefits that using the breath as the primary driver for the practice of mindfulness meditation, including:

  • It is invisible, you don’t need an app or a tool
  • Does not impose on you – it is always there
  • It is subtle. When you get into the practice, you will notice a difference in the in breath as well as the out breath. I have noticed a slight pause between the in breath and the out breath. Do you?
  • It is completely natural
  • You carry it with you always. Some people use mantras or vocal repetition, but the easiest is the use of the breath itself.

The next aspect to be aware of, is how you are sitting:

  • You need to be sitting awake. Upright with your back slightly away from the back of the chair. I try to imagine that I have a piece of string that is pulling me up from the back of my neck
  • De-focus your gaze in front of you, or even close your eyes.

The breathing meditation itself:

  • Become aware of your breath as you breathe. Don’t try to control your breath, just let it come and go. As you focus on your breath, it will tend to slow down. Don’t worry, that is natural.
  • You might become aware of the coolness of the breath as you breathe in. A cold spot on your nose. The diaphragm moving as you breathe in and ou. Your stomach might move. The warmth of the breath as you breathe out.
  • As you focus on your breath, thoughts will come. They ALWAYS will. it is natural. Don’t worry about it.
  • Don’t run after the thoughts.
  • don’t hold onto the thoughts
  • Let them pass. Like a bird in the sky or like clouds cross the sky
  • The sky behind the birds or clouds does not change. That is the pure Mindfulness Awareness.
  • You will chase the thoughts. And when you do, you will berate yourself for doing that. Don’t. We all chase our thoughts.
  • Instead, congratulate yourself for coming awake and noticing you are and instead return to the start of this section.
  • You  can practice this for a few minutes of even longer. I tend to do this for 20 minutes. When you wish to stop. Slowly, bring your thoughts to the present. Wriggle your fingers, roll your shoulders and finish.

 

And that is that. I would encourage you to have a go. Please do let me know how you get on.

I leave you with the following quote:

“Listen–are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?” ― Mary Oliver