“…there are people who try to look as if they are doing a good and thorough job, and then there are the people who actually damn well do it, for its own sake.” ― John D. MacDonald, Free Fall in Crimson
Further to the first article, I wrote “Work is a relationship” on the nature of work and the relationship we have with it, I got some interesting and thought provoking feedback:
“It is strange that work is so often NOT seen as a relationship. Even though we hear the words ‘The Psychological Contract is strong (or broken)’. The Psychological contract (whatever its state) is a relationship. There is something in our culture that seems to want to keep the word ‘relationship’ off (or even under) the table.
Maybe it is time to wake up to the fact, there is more going on in the workplace than we have been acknowledging in many instances!”
I completely agree that the idea the working relationship is often ignored. If you consider that on average you spend over 50 years working and the majority of your waking week is spent at work (on average over 40 hours plus); its importance is so often missed. People often refer to “employee engagement”, but it is more than this; much more. If you disagree, please feel to comment.
Where does the level of personal engagement come into it? Like all relationships, is it the level of commitment to deliver; often in challenging and difficult situations; versus just turning up? Is it commitment, or is it engagement built on trust? This got me thinking about what is the “work relationship”? What are its key characteristics? Is it, in fact, any different from a personal or social relationship?
I want to see if the work relationship is a fallacy or is in fact real. Also, what is your understanding? I believe the following are elements that go to make a “work relationship”:
- Having common Values – nor necessarily the corporate ones, but a sense of belonging to a common set within the workgroup
- How you get along with each other – how you work, talk, engage, and interact with each other
- Respect each and every person – consistent and truthful respect, is the glue
- Emotional Intelligence and Responsibility – this is a separate topic in its own right
- Empathy, Compromise, Patience, Flexibility, Acceptance and Openness – speaks for itself
- Simple kindness – to one another and to oneself
- Mental flexibility – to deal with the stress of the work environment
- A sense of humour – laughter, fun, affection and connection
- Conflict – how you manage and handle conflict. In addition, how you learn through conflict
- Trust – that you support each other for the highest good
- Finally, something unsaid; a feeling; an untold emotion. Or to use a phrase, “Je ne sais quoi” – an indefinable, elusive quality,
I think the list is pretty comprehensive, but if you feel that there are other aspects that need to be added, please feel free to comment.
In addition, it would be interesting to see if there are differences across the generations. For instance, is there a stronger work commitment for those who are Generation X (born between the 1960’s and the 1980’s) than Generation Y (those born between the 1980’s to 2000)? For those that are Generation Z (2000’s onwards) who are just starting to enter the work world, what is their perception?
I aim to follow up on the work relationship elements in subsequent posts, as well as the difference across the generations and would appreciate your insights and feedback.
Finally, I believe the general world of work is changing. And it’s changing fast. It’s rare that a week goes by without new evidence proving this. The World Economic Forum believes a ‘Fourth Industrial Revolution’ is imminent, and that the role of humans in the workplace will change in favour of smart machines and automation. Something, I’d like to follow up on as well.
In the meantime, I leave you with the following quote which really struck a chord with me.
“Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you get used to this idea, you start more and more to concentrate not on the results, but on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work itself. You gradually struggle less and less for an idea and more and more for specific people. In the end, it is the reality of personal relationship that saves everything.” ― Thomas Merton