Moments of Silence and Peace

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein This week at work has been exceptionally busy, with meetings; deadlines and commitments that had to be met; and a major project coming to fruition. Outside of work; […]

The Divided Self

““All of us have two minds, a private one, which is usually strange, I guess, and symbolic, and a public one, a social one. Most of us stream back and forth between those two minds, drifting around in our private self and then coming forward into the public self whenever we need to. “ ― […]

The man who wasn’t there

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Oscar Wilde I don’t know about you, but some days I feel fully present. On other days, I feel as if I have somehow dissolved into the background. I can recognise the symptoms and also the feelings that come […]

RAIN – You can not eliminate negative thoughts

““One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.” ― Iyanla Vanzant Of the 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts that we have every day, approximately 70% of them of them are negative. Just the thought […]

How to manage and deal with anger

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” ― Gautama Buddha Anger, frustration and that sense of being out of control is something we have all felt at some time in our lives. Often, it comes […]

Mindfulness guidance

“Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” ― Rumi It would appear that Mindfulness is getting more and more popular. This week, I have had numerous discussions and inquiries regarding it. People have asked me why I practice it; what the benefits of practice are; where did […]

What you see and hear isn’t always what it seems

Our prisons are other people’s eyes; our cages are their thoughts. – Ruby Wax, from her autobiography, How do you want me? The world revolves around the events and the interactions that we all participate in. We create our own world inside of us; recreating and reinforcing our thoughts and perceptions, moment by moment, every […]

The power of 5

“The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.” ― Peter Shaffer, Five Finger Exercise: A Play I was asked recently to try to help some graduates in my organisation prepare for a training course. The course was entitled “Personal Impact” and it concerned your own personal […]

Choosing a Habit

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.” ― Robert Frost Part of the January ritual that society seems to have developed is this concept of New Year’s resolutions and the concept that we should develop new habits. i wondered where it […]

New Year, new resolutions and tips on how not to fail

“I made no resolutions for the New Year. The habit of making plans, of criticizing, sanctioning and molding my life, is too much of a daily event for me. ” ― Anaïs Nin This blog was originally going to be called “New Year, Old Habits, New Habits, New Beginnings” but I realised two things. Firstly, […]