What you see and hear isn’t always what it seems

Our prisons are other people’s eyes; our cages are their thoughts. – Ruby Wax, from her autobiography, How do you want me? The world revolves around the events and the interactions that we all participate in. We create our own world inside of us; recreating and reinforcing our thoughts and perceptions, moment by moment, every […]

3 Minutes is all it takes

“Pick the day. Enjoy it – to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present, and I don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.” ― Audrey Hepburn Earlier this week, I had the opportunity to attend a […]

The four constituents of Well-Being you can change

“Those who find ugly meanings in beautiful things are corrupt without being charming. This is a fault. Those who find beautiful meanings in beautiful things are the cultivated. For these there is hope.” ― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray Achieving well-being has been the concern of philosophers since Aristotle, and is, […]

We can change our negative wiring!

Oddball: “Why don’t you knock it off with them negative waves Moriarty? Why don’t you dig how beautiful it is out here? Why don’t you say something righteous and hopeful for a change?” ― From the Film “Kelly’s Heros” So what are we going to do about being hard wired with a negative […]

Are we hard-wired to be negative?

“From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling sister-in-law, you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness instead. Take control and choose to focus on what is important in your life. Those who […]

How to deal with Toxic Stress

“Unhappy childhoods will kill you as an adult.” – Anon Here is the article I promised on how to deal with Toxic Stress. The previous article described what Toxic Stress was and how you identify it. Just as a reminder. The starting point was that there was a series of research programmes that identified […]

Toxic stress and its impact on you

“Unhappy childhoods will kill you as an adult.” – Anon We all know that how we are treated as children has a profound effect on us as adults. If you are surrounded by people that smoke; you are more likely to smoke. Likewise with drink and drugs. We also know that unhappy experiences in […]